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Look unto Sarah not Feminism!

Isaiah 51:2: “Look unto Sarah [that] bare you…”

In a world in which perverseness and wokeism has become the order of the day, it is imperative that believers are well taught and instructed in Bible culture and values, else conformity to the ungodly civilization will be inevitable.

We live in a society which has been taken over by the rise of radical feminist movements. These movements started in the early 19s as honest movements in nations with subjugation of the female gender; yet, they have deteriorated into movements that are against the pillars of marriage, especially in Christianity.

Thus, the Spirit is sounding a firm warning to the female gender in Isaiah 51:2; He says, “… look unto Sarah”. He does not say, ‘… look unto Adichie…’ or ‘…look unto feminism’, instead, He reveals to us who is His blueprint for Christian wives to conform to; Sarah.

Who was Sarah?

Sarah is the first wife of Bible’s Abraham. Her role as a wife, friend and partner in Abraham’s life can never be overemphasized.

Sarah was not the one God called, Abraham was the one called by God. Sarah was not the one who received the promise, it was Abraham. But when Abraham shared it with her, she supported Abraham by choosing to go with him in his journey towards destiny. Here, Sarah shows us that as a wife, you must be ready to support your husband in his pursuit of his God-given vision. You must be ready to make sacrifices for him; you must be ready to displease yourself to see to the fulfillment of that great dream.

          Imagine how difficult it was for Sarah to leave her home, country and comfort to go with Abraham to an unknown land. It shows how much she loved Abraham and how far she was willing to go to see to his success in life. Sacrifice is a great necessity in building a strong marriage.

Sarah’s love and sacrificial heart made her consistently follow Abraham even as he wandered from one place to another. She was selfless, and truly devoted her whole life to supporting Abraham’s vision.

If we could get more wives like Sarah in Christian marriages, certainly, we would get more men like Abraham; because the success of Abraham, to a large extent, was tied to the supportive role of his wife.

  • She was submissive

1 Peter 3:5-6: “For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.” (NIV)

Sarah was a submissive wife. In several places in the book of Genesis, she called Abraham ‘her lord’. The Hebrew word for ‘lord’ in that context is ‘Adonai’ and it means an owner or a master. Thus, Sarah recognized Abraham’s lordship over her. She recognized the fact that in that marriage, she belonged to Abraham. She recognized Abraham not just as her husband, but also as one who rightfully owned her; and she proved this by her unfailing devotion to serving Abraham.

When Abraham was entertaining the three strangers in Genesis 18:6, he instructed Sarah to bake bread and she promptly obeyed his instruction. In the two events in which Abraham instructed Sarah to hide her identity as his wife, Sarah obeyed perfectly. Folks, this is the reason God had to appear to Abraham and tell him to listen to Sarah and send Hagar away from the house.

Sarah is an epitome of true strength in marriage. She reveals to us, that as a wife, the way to getting a strong home and respect from your husband is not in fierce opposition or constant disobedience to his instructions, but in love and submission.

MARRIAGE COLUMN

Being pregnant for a fellow does not mean you must marry him. He bears responsibility toward that child but you don’t have to marry him, except you want to.

He has the responsibility of a father, but not necessarily the privilege of a husband. You are obligated to be a mother, but not duty bound to be a wife.

Husband and wife make one fundamental aspect of marriage that is kind of foundational. You don’t add it on top of fatherhood and motherhood. No. Father and mother is what is to be added on to husband and wife.

Being a Husband or a wife has little to do with children, ie, having or not having children. It is a vow between a man and a woman, of mutual love, respect, companionship and partnership that begins long before children arrive, exists even if they do not come, and continues long after they have grown up and moved on.

The priest does not pronounce you “father and mother”, but “husband and wife”; and as important and desirable as parenting is, marriage does not begin there. It begins with and as “husband and wife”. It is the social foundation of the home.

You don’t marry a man because he has made you a mother or you have made him a father. You don’t become husband and wife because you have become father and mother. No, you should become a father and mother because you have become husband and wife.

If you love each other though, please marry. Don’t let guilt prevent you. You’ve messed up the order, but God is full of goodness. If you go to Him, you will come back with a threefold cord. As for you who has had even a third child with the same man and still no marriage. Ah! is all I can say. Please allow me say it again

Ah!

A healthy marriage is the stuff of a sane society. It is the foundation for parenting. It is the first church. It is the first school. Tinker with it, and society falls. Churches may be misbehaving and educational systems may be derelict; but a lot of the blame placed on the church and the school are a result of failing homes. Home training seems to now be a past-tense concept.

Anyway, a healthy marriage is the greatest bond in society. And no one with good sense comes between it. What God has joined together…

No man should put asunder.

Ebele UzoPeters

If after marriage to your loving spouse, you meet someone else you feel is your “true soulmate”

Your soul is not well.

Ebele UzoPeters