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CATCH THEM YOUNG

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Take two plain sheets of paper, a black and a blue marker, and an eraser.



Now look, those two plain sheets of paper represent the heart of a child. When I say heart, I mean the mind and the soul.



The blank sheets are at their highest point of receptivity, waiting for anyone to write on them.


They lack the power to choose the color of the marker and the content of what would be written on them.


Now take the markers and paint one sheet black and the other blue. Once you’re done, try cleaning them off with the eraser with you.



You will notice that the eraser will not be able to wipe them out, rather the color of the eraser turns to either blue or black depending on which paper you try erasing.


The color on the papers becomes permanent and unable to get cleaned off.


The already blue sheet symbolizes a child who has been brought up in God’s way while the black sheet depicts a child that was brought up without God.


Both hearts were once blank but as they grew up, some changes took place which led to generating two entirely different children.



The eraser there represents the people around.


Once the heart has been filled up with either good or bad, it would be difficult for an outsider to change that which has been etched in the heart of such a child.


One of the mistakes many people make as guardians and adults is their failure in giving out quality time to train and build up their children in the way of the Lord.


They have left the spiritual lives of these youngsters unattended, solely focusing on their academic and physical welfare.


The bible says in Proverbs 22 vs 6, “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.



Today, we see sound children with so much knowledge about the Internet and books, but with little or no understanding about Godly living.


The intellectual and emotional intelligence are all reasonable but if the spiritual aspect is left with a void, their lives would be left lopsided.


As we inculcate into our children academic knowledge, let us also learn to balance it up with the knowledge about God and morality.


These simple tips might help:


– Have a morning and night devotion with them.


– Take time to go on a Bible study with them.


– Compose Godly poems for them.


– Teach your children how to pray and when they are old, they shall not depart from it.



Written by Tolu-Taiwo Victor

MARRIAGE COLUMN

Being pregnant for a fellow does not mean you must marry him. He bears responsibility toward that child but you don’t have to marry him, except you want to.

He has the responsibility of a father, but not necessarily the privilege of a husband. You are obligated to be a mother, but not duty bound to be a wife.

Husband and wife make one fundamental aspect of marriage that is kind of foundational. You don’t add it on top of fatherhood and motherhood. No. Father and mother is what is to be added on to husband and wife.

Being a Husband or a wife has little to do with children, ie, having or not having children. It is a vow between a man and a woman, of mutual love, respect, companionship and partnership that begins long before children arrive, exists even if they do not come, and continues long after they have grown up and moved on.

The priest does not pronounce you “father and mother”, but “husband and wife”; and as important and desirable as parenting is, marriage does not begin there. It begins with and as “husband and wife”. It is the social foundation of the home.

You don’t marry a man because he has made you a mother or you have made him a father. You don’t become husband and wife because you have become father and mother. No, you should become a father and mother because you have become husband and wife.

If you love each other though, please marry. Don’t let guilt prevent you. You’ve messed up the order, but God is full of goodness. If you go to Him, you will come back with a threefold cord. As for you who has had even a third child with the same man and still no marriage. Ah! is all I can say. Please allow me say it again

Ah!

A healthy marriage is the stuff of a sane society. It is the foundation for parenting. It is the first church. It is the first school. Tinker with it, and society falls. Churches may be misbehaving and educational systems may be derelict; but a lot of the blame placed on the church and the school are a result of failing homes. Home training seems to now be a past-tense concept.

Anyway, a healthy marriage is the greatest bond in society. And no one with good sense comes between it. What God has joined together…

No man should put asunder.

Ebele UzoPeters

If after marriage to your loving spouse, you meet someone else you feel is your “true soulmate”

Your soul is not well.

Ebele UzoPeters