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Where does your Friendship fall under?

Friendship is a word that has no absolute definition. Instead, its meaning is based on how an individual views it.

However, two things are necessary concepts regarding the meaning of friendship.

They are Mutuality and Voluntariness.

By Voluntariness, I mean that friendship is not compelled. It exists between two or more persons who come together to become acquainted out of the choice made out of their own free will.

By mutuality, I mean that friendship is also reciprocal. It is an action experienced and practiced by the parties involved.

Why do people engage in friendship?

The reason for this question would give way to the types of friendships.

According to Aristotle, there are 3 types of friendships as depicted in Book VIII of the Nicomachean Ethics. They include:

. Friendships of Utility
. Friendships of Pleasure
. Friendships of the good

Friendships of utility are often characterized by the colloquial, ” _scratch my back and I will scratch yours.”_

This is the kind of friendship that exists between you and someone useful to you in some way. For instance, possibly you’re friends with the intelligent guy in your classroom because he helps you out in solving maths assignments, and in return, you gift him nice clothes and shoes.

This sort of friendship is usually temporary.

Friendships of Pleasure exist between persons who find fun and delight in the company of each other.

Often, friends of this type are regarded as “entertainment pals”, people with whom you do social activities like playing snooker and soccer games.

Friends in this category hang out because they share common pleasures and hobbies.

This friendship can easily end when the activity that brought them together no longer exists.

Friendship of the Good: This is the most perfect of all types of friendship. It takes a long time to build and is not easily broken.

Aristotle considered this type as “brotherly love.”

In this perfect level of friendship, there is no intent to gain anything from the other. Rather the focus is on how one can fulfill the other’s wishes.

These are friendships based on a mutual admiration of each other’s qualities.
People who have a handful of this type of friends in their lives are truly blessed.


How can one maintain good friendships?

Be Loyal: Loyal friends support each other in good and bad times. One doesn’t backbite and tear down the other.

Openness: Good friends don’t keep unhealthy secrets.

Acknowledge the differences in others: Bear in mind that everyone has a unique personality. It is important to understand the 4 personality traits dominant in people – Sanguine, Choleric, Melancholic, and Phlegmatic.

Knowing the personalities in people makes you able to accommodate them and their excesses.

Love, Trust, and Respect: These are other ingredients needed in maintaining a perfect friendship. Friends who respect each other apologize when one offends the other. Similarly, respect will make you not cross your friend’s boundary.

Love and respect your friends without an underlying intent.


Ultimately, good friends are rare gems.

A friend will tell you what you want to hear but it takes only a _good friend_ to tell you what you need to hear.


Where does your friendship fall under?

Courage and Moderation in the Believer’s Life

Sin has done a pretty complete job of ruining us and the process of restoration is long and slow.

The works of grace in the individual life may be never so clear and definite, but it is indeed the labor of a God to bring the once fallen heart back into the divine likeness again.

In nothing is this seen more plainly than in the great difficulty we experience in achieving spiritual symmetry in our lives.

The inability of even the most devout souls to show forth the Christian virtues in equal proportion and without admixture of unChristlike qualities has been the source of heartache to many of God’s believing people.

The virtues before us, courage and moderation, when held in correct proportion, make for a well-balanced life and one of great usefulness in the kingdom of God.

Where one is missing or present only in minute degree, the result is a life out of balance and powers wasted. Almost any sincere writing, if examined closely, will be found to be autobiographic.

We know best what we have ourselves experienced. The temptation is further strengthened by the knowledge that it is next to impossible to pin a preacher down and make him eat his words.

There is a ministerial immunity accorded a man of God which may lead Boanerges into extravagant and irresponsible language unless he uses heroic measures to bring his nature under the sway of the Spirit of love.

This I have sometimes failed to do, and always to my own real sorrow. Here again the contrast between the ways of God and the ways of man is seen. Apart from such wisdom as painful experience may give, we are prone to try to secure our ends by direct attack, to rush the field and win by assault.

That was Samson’s way, and it worked well except for one minor oversight: it slew the victor along with the vanquished! There is a wisdom in the flank attack, but a wisdom which the rash spirit is likely to reject.

Of Christ it was said, “He shall not strive, nor cry; neither shall any man hear his voice in the streets. A bruised reed shall he not break, and smoking flax shall he not quench, till he send forth judgment into victory.”

He achieved His tremendous purposes without undue physical exertion and altogether without violence. His whole life was marked by moderation; yet He was of all men the most utterly courageous.

He could send back word to Herod who had threatened Him, “Go ye, and tell that fox, Behold, I cast out devils, and I do cures today and tomorrow, and the third day I shall be perfected.”

There is consummate courage here, but no defiance, no sign of contempt, no extravagance of word or act. He had courage with moderation. ‘The failure to achieve balance between these virtues has caused much evil in the church through the years, and the injury is all the greater when church leaders are involved.

There is a right way to do things, and it is never the violent way. The Greeks had a famous saying: “Moderation is best”; and the homely proverb of the American farmer, “Easy does it,” has in it a wealth of profound philosophy.

God has used, and undoubtedly will yet use men in spite of their failure to hold these qualities in proper balance. Elijah was a man of courage; no one could doubt that, but neither would anyone be so rash as to claim that he was a man of patience or moderation.

Eli, on the other hand, was Ainan of moderation. Both these men were good men, but they could not find the happy mean. Of the two, the fiery Elijah was certainly the greater man.

It is painful to think what Eli would have done in Elijah’s circumstances. And I could pity even Hophni and Phinehas if Elijah had been their father!

This leads us logically to think of Paul, the apostle. Here is a man whom we need never take at a discount. He seems to have had an almost perfect courage along with a patient disposition and a forbearance truly Godlike.

What he might have been apart from grace is seen in the brief description given of him before his conversion. After he had helped to stone Stephen to death, he went out Christian hunting, “breathing out threatenings and slaughter.”

Even after his conversion he was capable of summary judgments when he felt strongly on a question. His curt rejection of Mark after he had gone back from the work was an example of his short way of dealing with men in whom he had lost confidence.

But time and suffering and an increasing intimacy with the patient Saviour seems to have cured this fault in the man of God. His later days were sweet with love and fragrant with forbearance and charity.

So should it be with all of us that the Bible gives no record of a coward ever being cured of his malady. No “timid soul” ever grew into a man of courage.

Peter is sometimes cited as an exception, but there is nothing in his record that would mark him as a timid man either before or after Pentecost.

He did touch the borderline once or twice, it is true, but for the most part he was a man of such explosive courage that he was forever in trouble by his boldness.

Fear broods over the church like some ancient curse. Fear for our living, fear of our jobs, fear of losing popularity, fear of each other: these are the ghosts that haunt the men who stand today in places of church leadership.

Many of them, however, win a reputation for courage by repeating safe and expected things with comical daring. Yet self-conscious courage is not the cure.

To cultivate the habit of “calling a spade a spade” may merely result in our making a nuisance of ourselves and doing a lot of damage in the process.

The ideal seems to be a quiet courage that is not aware of its own presence. It draws its strength each moment from the indwelling Spirit and is hardly aware of self at all. Such a courage will be patient also and well-balanced and safe from extremes.

May God send a baptism of such courage upon us.

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The writer of more or less, half of the chapters in The Book of Psalms, David, is one of the prominent Bible figures in history. The trials and travails of David contribute to what makes him stand out as one of Israel’s greatest king.

Despite his great travails, David never once renounced his faith. He kept serving God zealously.

At the later part of his age, David offered to build God a house. God declined David building him a house.

Yet, due to His abundant love for God, David made available all the tools and financial resources necessary for the building of the temple and gave his son, Solomon to be diligent in the building of the Temple.

For this act of love, God said to David,

2 Samuel 7:12: “And when your days are fulfilled and you sleep with your fathers, I will set up after you your offspring who shall be born to you, and I will establish his kingdom.”

2 Samuel 7:13: “He shall build a house for My Name [and My Presence], and I will establish the throne of his kingdom forever.”

2 Samuel 7:14: “I will be his Father, and he shall be My son. When he commits iniquity, I will chasten him with the rod of men and with the stripes of the sons of men.”

2 Samuel 7:15: “But My mercy and loving-kindness shall not depart from him, as I took [them] from Saul, whom I took away from before you.”

For David’s love of God, God prospered Solomon and gave Solomon the kind of peace and prosperity that had never been seen since the inception of Israel’s monarchy.

Believers tend to weary at the long run, in the service of God when the material benefits of serving God does not come to them at the rate at which they desire.

But God wants us to know, that even though for some reasons, we might not materially enjoy the rewards of our labour in His House, undoubtedly, our children shall enjoy it.

Psalms 112:1: “Blessed is the man who fears the Lord, who delights greatly in His commandments.

Psalms 112:2: “His descendants will be mighty on earth; The generation of the upright will be blessed.”

The Man who fears the Lord might be poor. He might have died from an unseen pandemic. Though he feared the Lord greatly and obeyed all His commandments, he might still be oppressed by the wicked and affected by the country’s economy.

Yet, God permits these. God permits it because when we go through these severe trials and persecutions, we are not going through it alone. We are going through it on behalf of our unborn generations.

Psalms 22:30 “A seed shall serve him; it shall be accounted to the Lord for a generation.”.

God accounts man’s service to Him as Generational. Abraham served God and as a result, God blessed Abraham’s seed.

Here is the reason why you must not relent in your kingdom service. Because the reward for whatever you do for the Kingdom is being prepared for both you and your generation.

When you feel like quitting and giving up on the Faith; when the persecution becomes too much, and the temptation to renounce Christianity becomes too strong. Remember, that your decision will affect even your unborn generation.

Prayers never expire. There are times when we pray in the spirit, and we think we are praying for ourselves, but God is actually using that prayer as a means to create a good future for our children and their children’s children.

Serve the Lord for your kids. Look unto Him for a bright future in their lives.

Ensure you get your children engaged in the things of God. Sow a seed of whatever you desire for your children, in the lives of other people’s children.

If you desire favour for your children, favour the children of other people. In festive seasons, you can get gifts you can afford and send to them.

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During hard times like this, you can decide to support the feeding or Education of some of those poor children in your locality.

These things might seem to be philanthropic activities and aids rendered to other families.

But in Heaven, it is actually seen as a seed for your children to bountifully harvest such favor in every area of their lives.

Refreshing your Pastor

Ephesians 4:11-12: “So Christ himself gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the pastors and teachers, to equip his people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may be built up”

The secret to the success of every great organization lies in the quality of its leadership, and the response of the followers to the leader.

No organization can exist and succeed without having leaders, and without having people who submissively follow their leadership.

This is a Principle that Christ works with in The Church. The Church is an Organization in all planes of existence. The Church is a physical, social and spiritual organization. It is a Body. A Society which consists of Christians.

The Head of the Church is Christ. Yet, Christ has appointment leaders known as Ministers here on Earth, to shepherd His Church on His behalf and bring them unto the fulness of the divine nature which they’d received.

The Pastor of your Church is your leader. He is the shepherd placed in charge of you and every other person who belongs to that Christian community.

He is divinely ordained. The scripture mentioned above tells us that it is Christ who selects the Pastors, Apostles etc. None of them ever chose themselves. They were chosen by God and special anointed to carry out the tasks which the Lord assigned to them.

The duty of a Pastor is to take care of his flocks. To nourish them spiritually and mentally, and sometimes, financially. To intercede for them before the throne of mercy all day long.

But the work of pastors can become an heavy workload if their followers are not responding positively to them.

The effectiveness of the pastor depends on how well his flock responds to his leadership.

Romans 15:32: “So that by God’s will I may come to you with joy and be refreshed in your company”


2 Timothy 1:16: “May the Lord grant mercy to the household of Onesiphorus, for he often refreshed me and was not ashamed of my chains”

The Man of God needs refreshing. He spends hours fasting and praying, not for himself, but for you and I.

He makes several sacrifices. Goes on retreats; denies himself of even family comfort, just to see that the will of God over your life is fulfilled.

These things are laborious. I doubt if there is anything that energizes ones spirit, yet, exhausts one mentally, emotionally or physically as long term Fasting and Prayer.

Yet, our Men of God engage in these things, to ensure that we get every equipping needed to carry out God’s purpose on Earth.

If we fail to refresh them, they will get worn out, because there is only so much the Body can bear.

HOW TO REFRESH YOUR PASTOR

1. Pray for Him:

Our Pastors have needs also. They have personal challenges that they are struggling with. Some of them have family/marital problems. We must not shut our eyes to these things.

It is very important for the man of God to be prayed for with fervency by his members.

The Church at Jerusalem, prayed for Peter without ceasing when he was arrested. All over the world, pastors are facing severe persecutions. It is our duty to pray that God will strengthen their faith and give them the fortitude to bear the trials and tribulations.

2. HONOUR THEM

Thessalonians 5:12: “We ask you, brothers, to respect those who labor among you and are over you in the Lord and admonish you, and to esteem them very highly in love because of their work”

When Satan wants to scatter a congregation, he starts by making them disdain their pastor. When God wants to bless a congratulation, He first creates harmony between the Pastor and the congregation.

No matter what, do not slander your pastor. Do not speak ill of him. Do not disrespect your man of God. Though, they are not perfect, but for the fact that they were chosen by God to lead, we must give them absolute honor.

They are humans. Hence, they might have temperament problems. But the anointing upon their lives, the stature of their spirits and the sacrifices they make, deserve total respect.

Men of God should be encouraged. They should feel loved and appreciated by their flocks.

3. Financial Support.

Galatians 6:6: “One who is taught the word must share all good things with the one who teaches”

Galatians 6:6: “And those who are taught the Word must share all good things with their teacher; a sharing of wealth takes place between them.” (TPT)

Do not withhold your substance from your pastor. Support his Ministry with your finances. Give bountifully. Purchase gifts for him and his family.

God always blesses those who give to Pastors. But you must give to them out of love, and not because you want God to make you rich.

Decide today, that whether you are in abundance, or you are not financially bouyant, you will always support your man of God in whatever way you can.

God Bless You.

Too Precious to Lose

Matthew 16:26: “For what is a man profited, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? or what shall a man give in exchange for his soul?”

Heb 12:16: “Lest there be any fornicator, or profane person, as Esau, who for one morsel of meat sold his birthright.”

Despite its severe effects, the lockdown was also a blessing in disguise. Although the lockdown has been terrible on some people, yet, it has also been didactic.

It has given Christians the space to reflect on the state of their fellowship with God. It has caused us to genuinely appreciate our faith and the communal Worship which we had in time past.

The communal Worship which several believers abandoned in their desperate quest to get Earthly Riches, is what they are crying for today.

The businesses which they pursued at the expense of their Faith and devotion, has been shut down without warning by the Government.

The friends whose pressure caused them to backslide in their walk with God, are nowhere to be found today.

The Covid was terrible. The lockdown was terrible. Yet, these things were highly didactic.

They should us the true nature of riches and Humanity.

Despite our world powers, health technologies and advanced science, we could not stop a single virus from wiping out millions of people from the face of the Earth.

We have been taught a lesson by Experience. And this lesson is one that will be passed on from generation to Generation.

Science has its limit. Money has its limit.

We are told in scriptures that money answers all things. That is true only in the context of material things.

Money only answers our yearn for the visible and tangible materials in this world. But money has no ability to procure eternity on our behalf.

Hence, the believer must be careful not to put money, instead of his soul’s state, as the priority of his pursuits in life.

Jesus said it this way,

St. Matthew 16:26 “And how do you benefit if you gain the whole world but lose your own soul in the process? Is anything worth more than your soul?” (NLT)

The AMP puts it this way,

Matthew 16:26: “For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world and forfeits his life [his blessed life in the kingdom of God]? Or what would a man give as an exchange for his [blessed] life [in the kingdom of God]?”

What exactly can you give as an exchange for the Blessedness of being a Christian?

Why aren’t you seeing the inestimable value of this great Pearl given unto you by the Lord Himself.

Why are you willing to forsake your faith to gain the world?
Why are you willing to forsake your faith to gain the cheers and praises of your friends?
Why are you willing to forsake your faith to gain the patronage of the world?
Why are you willing to accept abortion and Homosexuality just to gain global acceptance?

Oh Believer! Why are you very willing to forsake your faith to gain the attention of the world.

Look at how frail man is! Though they put on a strong outlook, and they pretend to be wise and in control, when it comes to matters of life and death, only God has the final say.

So why are you bothered about their persecution and antagonistic treatment towards you?

Haven’t you read in the Psalms that the wicked, “will soon wither, like green plants they will soon die away.” (Psalm 37:2).

The second text which I wrote at the beginning of this sermon, is one which tells us of a frightening event which took place in scripture.

Esau had returned from hunting and was hungry. He met Jacob preparing a scenting delicacy, and requested that Jacob shared it with him.

I believe the story is familiar to you. Jacob requested for Esau’s birthright in exchange for the Pottage, and Esau, without proper reasoning, sold his birthright to Jacob.

Though one might easily condemn Esau for selling his birthright to Jacob, yet, one knows that there are many Esaus in the Church today.

Esaus who gave relinquished their positions and duties in church, in order to unrestrainedly fulfill their inordinate desires.

Esaus who for a moment of want, have renounced their faith in order to get the Pottage of the Tempter.

If Esau had refused to give his birthright to Jacob, and had been patient, he would have certainly been able to prepare a meal of his to satisfy his hunger.

But when sin is about to trap its victim, it makes the victim see it as the only option available.

Probably Esau had thought, ‘What is the worth of my birthright anyways. Is it going to satisfy my belly?’.

There was an same way there are Christians who say within themselves, ‘What is the use of being a Christian? Is that how I want to feed my kids?

Though we think these things are our thoughts, yet, they are mostly whispers of the enemy to our hearts.

Refuse to gain the world at the expense of your soul!

Say No to sin!
Say No to promoting the cause of the LGBTQ community!
Preserve your Faith!

God bless you.

Mutually Dependent Humans

The whole Universe consists of elements which are mutually dependent on one another.

Creatures in different animals, interact with each other, and complement each other directly or indirectly.

The Grass grows for the Cow. The Cow defecates and its faeces becomes manure for the Grass.

Man exhales carbon dioxide and inhales oxygen from plants. Plants inhale carbon dioxide exhaled from man.

God fashioned the world such that its elements would be dependent on one another.

Mankind is not exempted from this.

We were created to be mutually dependent on one another. We were created to help one another.

The problem of today’s society is that we all want helpers, but very few want to be Helpers.

Everyone wants help, but only a few wants to help. Such a person who finds it difficult to help others, will never find generous helpers in his life.

The key to an outflow of Helpers from God is in helping others.

In Esther, we are introduced to a young lady, taken captive into a strange land, along with her uncle.

Her parents were killed in a siege on her Homeland. Hence, she was an orphan, in a strange land, living with her Uncle.

Mordecai was the Uncle of Esther. He was not a buoyant man. Rather, he was a poor gate man who served at the gates of the King’s Palace.

Despite the fact that this man wasn’t financially buoyant, he took Esther into his custody and took very good care of her.

His care and good wish for Esther made him to get her involved in the Beauty pageant held to determine the King’s new wife.

The Bible tells us that even while Esther was in the palace, under the custody of Hegar, Mordecai would come to check on Esther from time to time.

In his wit, he saw that Esther revealing her Jewish identity bluntly would greatly affect her chances of Winning. Hence, he instructed her not to reveal her identity to anyone.

Mordecai was not just a guardian to Esther. He was her mentor, coach, guide and Instructor. He helped this orphan girl as much as she could.

Years later, this orphan child, whom he had helped when she had no one to support her, became the Queen of the most powerful Empire in his days.

The Child who he had live with him when she had no one to live with, now had her permanent residence in the palace of the King.

Such is life, beloved.

The one who is seeking your help today might become your helper tomorrow.

The help you render today, are seeds that will guarantee you receive help whenever you need it.

There’s no act so Noble, nothing so great as helping others.

Proverbs 19:17: “Whoever is kind to the poor lends to the Lord, and he will reward them for what they have done.”

The Bible places giving amongst the most sacred of Christian activities. God declares in His Word, that when we give to the poor, we lend to Him.

On one hand, we are giving our skills and financial resources to the poor. On the other hand, Heaven records whatever you are giving, as something lent to God.

Man would say, ‘I gave XYZ amount of money to the poor’.

But in heaven, it is recorded as, ‘Mr Man lent XYZ amount of money to God. To be paid back with interest in due time’

If the Government of some countries pays back charity organizations for the donations they make every year; how won’t the government of heaven reward you bountifully for the money you’ve lent to them.

Hebrews 13:16: “And do not forget to do good and to share with others, for with such sacrifices God is pleased.”

Now is the time for us to release our help like never before. You do not need to have millions of dollars in your bank account before you give.

Give from the little you have. That is what makes it a Sacrifice. And as seen in that sacrifice, it is such Sacrifice that is pleasing unto God.

God Bless You.

The Significance of Self-Esteem

An excerpt from John Maxwell’s ‘Invaluable Laws of Personal Growth’

So why do many people fail to grow and reach their potential? I’ve concluded that one of the main reasons is low self-esteem. Many people don’t believe in themselves.

They don’t see the possibilities that God put in them. They possess a hundred acres of possibilities, yet never cultivate them because they are convinced that they won’t be able to learn and grow and blossom into something wonderful.

That was the case of Johnnetta McSwain, whose story I recently learned about. For more than thirty years, she was someone who saw little value or potential in herself.

But to be honest, there were many legitimate reasons for her poor perception of herself. She was born to a single mother who didn’t want her and told her so.

She and her sister, Sonya, who was a year older, along with a cousin, spent the first five or six years of their lives being raised by their grandmother in Birmingham, Alabama.

But the house was also shared by three uncles, who abused all three of the children psychologically, physically, and sexually. Johnnetta was scarred both physically and emotionally.

“By the time I was five years old,” says Johnnetta, “I had already started to believe that I was not only inferior, but I was also a child abandoned by her own mamma. As a child, I had no place, no voice, and no worth at all.”

When Johnnetta and Sonya’s mother learned about the abuse, she moved the three girls to a new home. But the abuse continued, this time from the men her mother brought home.

Sonya ultimately responded by living on the streets and turning to crack cocaine. Johnnetta avoided drugs, but she spent much of her time on the streets and dropped out of high school in the eleventh grade.

She had her first child out of wedlock at age nineteen, then a second child in her midtwenties. For the most part, she lived in government-supported housing and on government assistance, and relied on her boyfriends for additional support.

To keep herself in designer clothes, she resorted to shoplifting.

Sonya’s perspective poignantly sums up the state they were in: “Everybody in my family been in jail, on drugs, didn’t finish high school, so what I got to live for? What I got to amount to? Nothing! What I got to accomplish?”

Johnnetta’s thirtieth birthday caused her to look in the mirror. She didn’t like what she saw.

She writes, ‘That day I woke up and realized I had absolutely nothing to celebrate—no money, no full-time job, no home, no husband, and no clue, not even the will to do better…. At last, I knew it was time to make some changes.’

She wasn’t happy with her life, and she realized that if she continued in the same direction she was going, her two sons would also be headed for trouble.

As far as she knew, not a single male member of her family had ever finished high school. Many died young or ended up in jail. She didn’t want that for her boys.

For Johnnetta, the process started with her working to get her GED. She took a twelve-week course to prepare and then took the test. She needed a score of 45 to pass. She received a 44.5.

But she was determined to make something of herself, so she scheduled a retake at her first opportunity. When she passed, she was excited to be chosen to speak at the graduation ceremony. No one from her family bothered to attend.

Johnnetta knew that if she was going to change, she needed to leave Birmingham and get a fresh start. And she wanted to do something no one in her family had ever done—go to college.

She decided to move to Atlanta, Georgia, and was motivated by a profound thought: “I get a chance to be anyone I want to be. ” 4 “I get a chance to be anyone I want to be.” — Johnnetta McSwain It took her almost three years to pull it off, but she made the move.

Soon afterward, she enrolled in Kennesaw State University, deciding to take more than a full load every semester. She was thirty-three years old when she started school. She was street smart, but not very book smart—at least not at first.

That intimidated her in the beginning.

But for the first time in her life, she was determined to better herself. And soon she realized she could do it. “I realized I didn’t have to be smart,” Johnnetta explains. “I just had to be determined, motivated, and focused. This came with a high price tag for me. I had to exchange my thinking.”

Not only did she study hard and stay focused, but she also sought out the smartest person in each of her classes and asked to study with her.

Soon she was studying and thinking like the best students in the school. She also maintained the vision she had for her future.

At the beginning of every semester, she went to the bookstore on campus and tried on a cap and gown, looking at herself in the mirror and imagining what it would be like to graduate.

One day when a classmate was talking to her, she had a realization. The classmate was saying, “I don’t love myself. I’m a nobody.”

Johnnetta responded, “You sure can love you if I love me.” And that’s when it hit her, maybe for the first time. “I realized I loved myself.” She had changed. She was turning into the person she wanted to be, that she was created to be.

Johnnetta completed the work for a bachelor’s degree in three years. Then she enrolled in graduate school, where she earned a master’s degree in social work.

Currently, she is working toward earning her doctorate. “I went for something that society told me, ‘You can’t do,’ ” says Johnnetta. “Oh, yes I can”

_________

Your background might be similar to that of Johnetta. You can be successful!

Success is not determined by background, but by consistent success habits and determination.

Go after your dreams!

The Power of Positive Self Talk

Self Talk is the act of having a conversation with oneself. It is like having a discourse with your very being.

Self Talk is very necessary, because it allows us to explore the vast, unreached expanse of our minds.

As humans who have the talking ability, we are fond of speaking outwardly to people around us very often.

The average human talks for at least 30 seconds every minute he is awake.

Speaking to others is a good skill, but the ability to speak to ourself is a blessing.

The way we talk to others can be altered or enhanced by the way we talk to ourselves. We bless or curse others by conversing with them. But self talk is a way, of reawakening our inner awareness and enriching the quality of our minds.

Self Talk can also destroy one’s mind. It can be a person’s defeat or victory. It can be a source of faith, or a food of doubt. It either empowers you, or immobilizes you.

It all depends on how you utilize this great activity.

We all engage in self talk consciously or unconsciously.

What do you say to yourself when you made a mistake?

What do you stay to yourself when you fail in task you were assigned to do?

What do you say within you when you are assigned a task that seems too difficult?

These minute statements we make within us, actually affect our mind’s creativity even more than we can imagine.

Negative self talk is equivalent to releasing acids to kill the potentials and vast propensities in your mind.

Positive self talk is equivalent to fertilizing your mind for creative thinking and Imagination.

When you make mistakes, instead of condemning yourself and calling yourself names, gird your mind.

Say within yourself, ‘This was a mistake. Mistakes are inevitable. I’ve learnt my lesson. I’m gonna correct this and move on’.

Self-criticism will not make you better. It will only make you very rigid in your endeavors simply because you are trying to avoid a repetition of your past mistake.

But when you make a mistake, and you have recognized it, and you have repented of it, do not criticize yourself anymore.

Strengthen yourself with self talk and move on.

Do not wait until people call you special, before call yourself. Do not wait until you are praised, before you give yourself kudos.

Be the #1 fan of yourself. Be your #1 friend. Be your #1 cheerleader.

These things matter more than we can ever imagine.

A wise man once said,
“It’s not what we say out loud that really matters. It is that which we whisper to ourselves that has the greatest power”.

The way you speak to yourself, determines how much you value yourself, and how much value you place on yourself will determine how much value people will place on you.

From today, speak Positive things to yourself and to your family.

Instead of saying, ‘I am broken, scathed and weak’, say, ‘I am Healing. I am recovering. I am strong’.

Renowned Author, Edward Mbiaka, once said that,
“Positive self-talk is to emotional pain as pain pill is to physical pain.”

I’ll wrap up with this quote from Germany Kent;

‘Convince yourself everyday that you are worthy of a good life. Let go of stress, breathe. Stay positive, all is well.’


God Bless You.








The Power of a Positive Mentality



More often than not the term “Mentality” is used to lay emphasis by humans on a regular basis, positivity, negativity, hopes, dreams, aspirations, beliefs and the outcome of things as it is said and believed by the larger society depends on a person’s mentality.

But the question is what really is mentality?

Mentality, according to The Oxford Advanced Learners Dictionary is the attitude or way of thinking of a person or group.

Cambridge English dictionary defines mentality as a person’s particular way of thinking about things. That is to say, the entire lifestyle of a person can be traced their mentality.

Mentality being a person’s way of thinking goes similar with mindset which is a way of thinking, an attitude or opinion especially a habitual one.

The word ‘Habitual’ is very important in this context as it deals with the regular and behavioural manner of a person which has become a habit and Habit is an action performed on a regular basis.

If mentality is a person’s way of thinking and a person’s way of thinking is their mindset and their mindset is habitual, it is a clear proof that you are what you think, and a good or positive life goes in line with positive thinking while the opposite does otherwise.


Giving illustrations from the bible.

The story of the twelve spies in the book of numbers who were chosen from each of the twelve tribes of Israel by Moses to scout the land of Canaan for forty days in a quest to know their possibility of conquering the land – Numbers(13:3-20)

When they returned, ten of the spies described the people of Canaan as strong and their cities as fortified and very large, thus believing they were not as strong as the people of Canaan likewise their fortified cities. Numbers (13:25-29)

The ten spies portrayed a negative, mediocre and loser mentality.

But Caleb, who was among the twelve spies, quietened them and assured them that they could take over the land because God was with them.

He portrayed a positive and conquering mentality – Numbers 13:30.

But the other ten spies stuck to the mindset that the Canaanites were better off.

They saw themselves as grasshoppers before the Canaanites. (Numbers 13:31-33)

A person’s negative mindset can become permanently habitual if it is not adjusted quickly.

Despite the positive view of Caleb, the ten spies clung unto their negative mindset.

Joshua and Caleb, the only brave two out of the twelve spies, eventually led the conquering of the land of Canaan by being driven by a positive mindset and faith!

Another Biblical story that illustrates the power of positive/faith thinking is that of the woman with the issue of blood. – Mark 5:25-34

Scriptures tell us that she decided within her heart, saying, “If only I can touch his garment I will be made well.

For faith to work and bring expectations to reality it must be fueled by a positive mentality.

Faith with Positive Mentality is the gateway to receiving all that is expected from above.

Conclusively, the story of David and Goliath in 1 Samuel 17 also teaches us about the power of a positive mentality.

Scriptures tell us that the Israelites shook to their bones at the sight of Goliath but David was empowered by a positive mentality and a deep rooted faith in God, and he conquered!

There cannot be the presence of strong faith without a positive Mentality.

Expectations can only come to reality where the presence of a positive mentality and faith abides.

God does not work with a negative or mediocre mind.

A negative mindset is a product of doubt. God never works with one who thinks negatively.

Change your mindset.

Change your life.

You are what you think!


Oshen Gift

A Rare Lesson from The Ants



Proverbs 6 vs 6
“Go to the ant, you sluggard; Consider her ways and be wise”

The ant is a very special and interesting creature. Though very small in size, it has a lot of interesting and amazing characteristics.

According to science, ants can lift up to 50 times their own weight. So small yet strong and mighty. Another interesting fact about them is that they have no ears. Yes! They lack ears. All they depend on for hearing are vibrations.

These little creatures are ubiquitous. I mean they can be found anywhere and everywhere you go.

Some species of ants can actually live up to 2 hours after their heads have been ripped off their bodies.

These creatures are so amazing and unique, establishing the fact that size doesn’t matter when it comes to surviving in thus world.

Aside these amazing facts, there is also a lot to learn from them such as the lesson of hardwork and determination.

But that is not the only thing we can learn from the ants.

One evening, I was sitting under an almond tree enjoying the coolness of the shades and the evening breeze.

Then I felt something walking on my neck. I quickly threw it off my neck, and I inquisitively went to check what it was.

I discovered it was a little ant which I crushed while trying to take it off my neck.

It lay there wounded. I decided to leave it on the ground, hoping it would heal and gain enough strength to walk again.

I kept going to observe whether it would move, at intervals.

Several minutes later, I spotted another ant coming.

After a few seconds, it got to where the injured ant was and touched it with its antenna. It did this for about 30 seconds.

Then suddenly, it picked up the injured ant and started moving it away from where it was towards their little ant hole buried in the ground. Soon they got to the hole and entered.

This little act of this ant amazed me. It saw its fellow ant helplessly wounded and did not abandon it.. Instead, it helped it to safety.

Everyday, we hear stories of devout Christians falling into grievous sins such as fornication, fraud etc.

We see some at the verge of backsliding because they feel that they have fallen so deep they ca not be saved or used by God again.

Hearing this, instead of becoming a helping hand, we Christians take it as an opportunity to criticize and condemn them.

Instead of showing them love, we become mean towards them as if we are the world’s perfectionists. Instead of encouraging them, we talk them down., instead of correcting, we criticize.

Lots of Christians have commuted suicide due to this. The place from which they expected to get love, faith, strength and Correction, they got hatred, shame and criticism instead.

I want us to know that our maturity as believers is not only measured based on how fervently or how long we pray. Nor is it only measured based on on how well we get deep revelations from the Bible. It is also measured based on how we handle situations around us.

We are on a journey and this journey is a journey filled with stumbling blocks. No one is perfect but we are moving towards perfection.

Many are going to fall but it is the job of those who are already strong in those areas to bring them up, love, encourage and correct them.

Let us help each other on this journey.
Let us carry each other along.
Let us intercede for one another.
Let us fellowship with one another.

Don’t make anyone feel bad for falling. Remember it could happen to anyone and even you.

The Apostle said, “Let brotherly love continue”.

The Road to Eternity is full of thorns and trials, but if we stick to one another, we can definitely overcome.

Written by Tolu-Taiwo Victor