Being pregnant for a fellow does not mean you must marry him. He bears responsibility toward that child but you don’t have to marry him, except you want to.

He has the responsibility of a father, but not necessarily the privilege of a husband. You are obligated to be a mother, but not duty bound to be a wife.

Husband and wife make one fundamental aspect of marriage that is kind of foundational. You don’t add it on top of fatherhood and motherhood. No. Father and mother is what is to be added on to husband and wife.

Being a Husband or a wife has little to do with children, ie, having or not having children. It is a vow between a man and a woman, of mutual love, respect, companionship and partnership that begins long before children arrive, exists even if they do not come, and continues long after they have grown up and moved on.

The priest does not pronounce you “father and mother”, but “husband and wife”; and as important and desirable as parenting is, marriage does not begin there. It begins with and as “husband and wife”. It is the social foundation of the home.

You don’t marry a man because he has made you a mother or you have made him a father. You don’t become husband and wife because you have become father and mother. No, you should become a father and mother because you have become husband and wife.

If you love each other though, please marry. Don’t let guilt prevent you. You’ve messed up the order, but God is full of goodness. If you go to Him, you will come back with a threefold cord. As for you who has had even a third child with the same man and still no marriage. Ah! is all I can say. Please allow me say it again

Ah!

A healthy marriage is the stuff of a sane society. It is the foundation for parenting. It is the first church. It is the first school. Tinker with it, and society falls. Churches may be misbehaving and educational systems may be derelict; but a lot of the blame placed on the church and the school are a result of failing homes. Home training seems to now be a past-tense concept.

Anyway, a healthy marriage is the greatest bond in society. And no one with good sense comes between it. What God has joined together…

No man should put asunder.

Ebele UzoPeters

If after marriage to your loving spouse, you meet someone else you feel is your “true soulmate”

Your soul is not well.

Ebele UzoPeters